Many senior women across fast-paced industries are, by any conventional measure, extraordinarily well-connected. Their LinkedIn profiles list thousands of contacts. They belong to a half-dozen industry groups, get tagged in congratulatory posts after every promotion, and receive a steady stream of connection requests from people they have never actually met. Ask how supported they feel on a genuinely difficult day, though, and the answer often tells a different story.
That gap is not incidental. Just over one in five employees worldwide (22%) reported feeling lonely a lot of the previous day, a share that climbs to 24% among those working hybrid or fully remote, according to Gallup’s latest workplace research. Having a large network and feeling genuinely connected are simply different things, and high-achieving women in demanding, travel-intensive industries are increasingly aware of the distance between them.
More Connections, Less Connecting
Traditional professional networking was built for a different era: the conference badge, the after-hours mixer, the strategic coffee with someone who might one day be useful. It still exists everywhere, but for many women, it has stopped delivering on its promise.
The problem isn’t effort. Networking asks you to treat almost every relationship as a transaction: what this person can do for you, what you can do for them, whether the conversation is worth the time. That calculation is exhausting to run on repeat, and it produces exactly what it’s built to produce: a longer contact list instead of people who actually know you or genuinely care about you.
It’s also getting harder to depend on an employer for networking opportunities. Employee resource groups remain some of the most valued programs employees have: 93% support them, more than almost any other workplace offering. But they’re getting swept up in the retreat from corporate DEI anyway, according to a 2025 Catalyst and NYU’s Meltzer Center survey. For women who once relied on company-sponsored groups for mentorship and connection, we can no longer assume such support.
None of this means networking is worthless. It means networking was never built to create what many women are actually missing: a place to be known, not just contacted.
What Genuine Community Looks Like
Unlike networking, community isn’t organized around what someone can do for you next quarter. In practice, it looks smaller and steadier:
- A rotating group of five or six directors across different companies who meet monthly, off the record, to talk through decisions they cannot fully discuss with their own teams: a product recall, a difficult restructuring, a senior leader resistant to retirement, a call on when to push back on a timeline.
- A standing text thread among former colleagues, now scattered across three companies, that exists for one purpose: an honest gut check before a high-stakes negotiation or a hard conversation with a manager.
- A quarterly dinner among women at similar seniority levels across regulatory, clinical, product, and commercial roles who trade real information about compensation, promotion timelines, leadership transitions, and how their organizations handle parental leave in practice, not just what the policy says on paper.
- Monthly cocktail nights to swap stories, commiserate, and get informal advice from trusted professional women who run in similar circles.
None of these require a formal program, company budget, or HR’s involvement. They simply involve a small group of people who you trust and are willing to be candid, plus the discipline to keep showing up for each other even when there’s nothing transactional to gain.
The Career Case for Real Community
It would be easy to file all of this under wellbeing and move on. That undersells what is actually happening. Building genuine peer community is often how ambitious women compensate for a structural gap in how their industries distribute information, sponsorship, and support. When the formal path to a high-status network runs narrower for women than it does for men, a deliberate informal community, built and sustained over years, becomes a meaningful substitution which the org chart doesn’t provide.
That deserves the same deliberate investment as any other career strategy.
Start With One Person
If your own network has become wide and thin at the same time, this is something worth noticing and tracking. The relationships that carry you through a genuinely difficult year rarely come from the people who liked your last social post. They come from the small group of people you would call first: the ones you have invested in without keeping score, and who have done the same for you.
That kind of community doesn’t happen by accident, and it takes longer to build than accepting a request. Start with one person. Ask a real question, and mean it when you ask how they’re actually doing. The rest tends to follow from there.




